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By: LizzyBee

LizzyBee — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 04:33:52 +0000

So cool and calm in a drama, I turn into the reluctant leader I was born to be. Just don’t ask me what I feel like for lunch cos I have no idea.

By: Kez

Kez — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 02:11:24 +0000

Definitely better in a crisis than day to day stuff, such a great post Sarah, have often pondered this myself..spend soo much time sweatng the small EXTREMELY trivial stuff and yet when a bad thing happens (which so far have been few and far between touch wood) i am extremely stoic and soo calm..yah that you and Queen Vic are the same..don’t feel so unusual…:)

By: Heidi

Heidi — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 05:47:18 +0000

i also have trouble with the day to day issues lol, like the other morning my husband asked if i wanted my bread cut thick or thin & it was too much for me!!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 05:44:09 +0000

yay. good advice x

By: Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 05:43:41 +0000

i reckon it just takes practice x

By: Heidi

Heidi — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 08:04:01 +0000

traditionally i panic. definitely a screamer & find it terrifying to dispose of a dead mouse or get live birds out of the chimney. when my dad died of a heart attack on my moving out of home day i immediately started screaming ‘i’ve killed my father, i’ve killed my father’ (before we knew he was dead, maybe if any of us had had the composure to try CPR . . .). The thought that flashed through my head was ’satan [& i was a committed athiest at the time] has done this to make me go insane’. Interesting as ten years later the thought flashed through my mind that his death was the greatest blessing of my life . . .yes i must have an enormous ego to think the universe is revolving around me!
But i digress.
i have got slightly better with each crisis. learning the hard way. when a friend of mine was diagnosed with late-stage terminal cancer at the age of 26 i didn’t go to see her. i felt awkward. but now i actually feel MORE comfortable with people who are in crisis than those who are not, i know that by being there for them i am making an important difference. that this is what makes life meaningful.
it is really hard not to get sucked into old habits & go into panic mode (when i can’t see one of my kids for more than a few minutes while out for example) but life has shown me time & time again how detrimental this is, so i really should know how to stay calm by now.

By: Sam

Sam — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 05:06:14 +0000

Hey Sarah,

I find that I’m calm and stoic in other people’s crises but my own not so much … I’ve definitely learnt to manage that and am much better at keeping calm and focused on sorting it out. I now tend to not react immediately and let whatever it is just ’sit and be’ and then respond.

As for day-to-day issues, I don’t get that, I just have a favourite brand and stick to it, it’s one less decision to make in the day!