New Year idea: a pace for everything
My mum always says this: in the fullness of time. She’s a far calmer, softer, slower, gentler person than me. And over the years I’ve come to learn that…she’s right. When it comes to taking things a little slower, at least. She once sent me an embroidered place mat and suggested I use it to eat my dinner from. At the time I dismissed the gesture. With the fullness of time, however, I’ve realised that the gesture was about encouraging me to slow things down. To do things in full. To not resist. To take time. To trust that everything will be OK if I do.
This is Mum. And Dad. From when I was a kid and we lived in the country in a house built from scraps. She endures my father. And her six kids. With much patience.
I came across the below excerpt recently. I’m not sure where I found it. So apologies. I saved it in my drafts file on this blog. So I thought I’d share. It relates to when we get really shitty that things aren’t moving fast enough.
Instead of resisting, we can accept that there is a reason for us to be where we are and allow ourselves to observe what the situation offers.
If we consider that the sun only nourishes us because it’s the perfect size and distance away, and that the oxygen that enlivens us is replenished by trees, we may remember that the wisdom of the universe takes placement and timing into effect when orchestrating all necessary details. Therefore, we must be at this place at this time for a good reason.
This comes as a relief to me right now. A nice reminder for 2011. Everything has it’s right moment! Let it flow…
Wow, your mum is glowing and naturally gorgeous (Mr W handsome too!). A picture says 1000 words and I would guess they make make a great team supporting each other, admist all the chaos around them.
You’re very lucky Sarah to have such parents and role models.
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Sarah…good on you for honouring your mum in print!
And she is radiant in this photo…
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Love this Sarah. Wise Mum.
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Couldn’t have said it better myself – here’s to a relaxing 2011
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Thanks Sarah, a relief indeed, I took a deep breath and smiled upon reading that great excerpt you came across. A timely reminder for us all!
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Mums are very wise women aren’t they?!
I think these days we want it all, and more often than not having it all is almost impossible. We want family, career, friends, travel, financial stability… The thing is that many of us find we are ultimately being pulled in one direction or another when we are trying to balance it all.
I know my mother devoted herself to being an amazing mother and wife. She kept herself busy with 5 kids, that’s for sure. But she never piled more than she had to on her plate. She knew that her number 1 desire was having a family and to have this meant being a full-time mum and wife.
Sure, we have the whole world in front of us but maybe, just maybe, we’re piling our plates just a little too high…
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January 6th, 2011 at 7:58 pm
Quite so ..
mw
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Gosh lady! I’m riding the same wave so it seems. 2011, although short lived has already shown me. Patience is the theme thus far – something I don’t do well but I’m learning… slowing. Love this: ‘in the fullness of time.’ I will be saying this to myself a lot I think.
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Beautiful. Thank you.
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I love this! This was actually my new years resolution. My boyfriend and I are moving to Europe in August for the foreseeable future. My resolution was to enjoy the first half of the year, not wish it away and appreciate my time with my friends and family because I know I will get very homesick.
I am at this place at this time for a good reason!
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The quote is totally along the lines of “the stream” concept. Stop paddling, stop forcing a destination to arrive, relax, let go, and enjoy the ride! (Maybe everything we’re striving for isn’t actually upstream after all…) Thanks for this humble reminder to just let life be.
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A pace for everything and everything in its pace. William
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How gorgeous are you parents. Love. Mum’s always know. xx
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